The Way of the Superior Man.

“The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.”

I have never highlighted & bookmarked any single book or paper more than this one...

And honestly, that's saying a lot.

I finished my second rigorous re-read of The Way of the Superior Man. It's fitting that this is the first book commentary I release here.

Deida is a heart-integrated Nietzsche. He packs more substance in a single sentence than most modern self-help authors muster in an entire book.

“Men who have lived significant lives are men who never waited: not for money, security, ease, or women. Feel what you want to give most as a gift, to your woman and to the world, and do what you can to give it today. Every moment waited is a moment wasted, and each wasted moment degrades your clarity of purpose.”

Every chapter hits me like an essay I wish I had written...

Deeper than this, part of me weeps—with the red rush of anger sparking inside of me—wishing I had heard just a single one of these lines from any male role model growing up.

“Everything in your life, from your diet to your career, must be aligned with your purpose if you are to act with coherence and integrity in the world. If you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.”

I was speaking with a friend last week, and we ended up on gender dysphoria, transgenderism, and the future of the sexes. He put his position quite succinctly:

"It doesn't much matter, in 100 years this will all be commonplace and there will be no genders, no gender differences."

I disagreed...

I see a possible and probable future where we go further than we've ever gone into recognizing, appreciating, and embracing gender differences.

In the past, gender roles were 'forced'—you couldn't break out of the pattern even if you wanted to. In modern culture, we've broken those moulds; no longer can gender roles be forced. Men can express emotion, women can pursue worldly success. In the future, I believe men and women will voluntarily embrace their differences, and we'll unlock the true genius of humanity that arises from the fierce and passionate sexual polarity between the genders.

“One of the deepest feminine desires in intimacy is precisely not to have to always figure it out for her man and guide him.”

The Way of the Superior Man is the blueprint for how to dive deep into the heart, power, and purpose of the Sacred Masculine.

His thesis and supporting arguments are simple in theory, and an entire discipline to pursue in practice:

• Find your deepest truth and live from that place. Grounded in certainty, strength, and core confidence—in pursuit of your mission.
• There is no meaningful difference between how you treat your woman and how you treat your life.
• Lead with the love, strength, direction, purpose, and passion that is your birthright and inheritance as a man. Your woman and your world want to feel that, and respond positively to it.

“The most loving women are the women who will test you the most. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self. She won’t settle for anything less. She knows it is true of you. She knows in your deepest heart you are free, you are Shiva. Anything less than that she will torment. And, as you know, she’s quite good at it.”

The book is a series of 50 mini-essays filled with bangers like these, covering his 3 core themes of purpose, women, and harnessing sexual energy.

It's linguistic dynamite. Detonating outdated models of masculinity, inviting you with love and firmness to own your purpose and be the man you are in your Truth and Fullness.

It is written for heterosexual men, with a masculine essence, about relating with women of a feminine essence.

Even if you are a woman, or are in an alternative sexual/relational dynamic, there is deep wisdom here for anyone who chooses to flip through these pages.

“The superior man is not seeking for fulfillment through work and woman, because he is already full. For him, work and intimacy are opportunities to give his gifts, and be vanished in the bliss of the giving.”

Enjoy,
EB. 🔥